Over the course of the past few years, I’ve come to realize how deeply embedded bias is against what they call “non-custodial” parents in family courts. But the problem isn’t only in the courts. It just originates there. Prior to becoming a divorced dad, I wouldn’t have thought twice about what terms people use when… Continue reading You are not a visitor
“Why fight when I’m likely to lose in a system that doesn’t respect me?” This is a question I hear often on “The Fathers Rights Movement” Facebook page. It at once infuriates me and fills my heart with sorrow that can only be felt if you’ve also been there. It reveals at once both a… Continue reading Where art thou, hope?
I recently started following a Facebook group called “The Father’s Rights Movement,” which is an organization that purports to support equal rights for dads in the family courts. I have a great deal of empathy for fathers who want to see their children, but keep running into artificial roadblocks set up by people claiming to be acting… Continue reading 8 Things to Know Before You Leave Their Mother
A lot has happened since my last post. Here’s the short version: I met a girl. We fell in love. A few months later, I introduced her to my daughter and (step)son. The ex got upset. We spent the next two years dealing with the fallout from that. After getting remarried, circumstances dictated I seek redress from the… Continue reading A Dad’s Role in Protecting His Daughter
“Man does not live by bread alone,” but what we do live by, if we receive the perfect Word of God, is more satisfying than the finest meals prepared by the most talented chefs, using the most excellent ingredients at the grandest banquets thrown by the most respected people for the most accomplished people in… Continue reading But What Do We Eat?
Last night, while I was going through all of my books and papers, I was confronted with several uncomfortable truths: I hoard way too many books that I’ll never read again The deed of organizing the apartment will not be finished by the time my daughter visits on Friday You can’t erase memories by throwing… Continue reading Sorting Through the Rubble
The alternative title for this post is “Things A New Apartment Doesn’t Have but You Wish It Did.” The big weekend has come and gone. I’m officially moved in, and the apartment is “livable,” though now I know there are some things that an apartment doesn’t come with. It’s amazing how much we take for… Continue reading Salt, Measuring Tape, and Toilet Paper