Over the course of the past few years, I’ve come to realize how deeply embedded bias is against what they call “non-custodial” parents in family courts. But the problem isn’t only in the courts. It just originates there. Prior to becoming a divorced dad, I wouldn’t have thought twice about what terms people use when… Continue reading You are not a visitor
“Why fight when I’m likely to lose in a system that doesn’t respect me?” This is a question I hear often on “The Fathers Rights Movement” Facebook page. It at once infuriates me and fills my heart with sorrow that can only be felt if you’ve also been there. It reveals at once both a… Continue reading Where art thou, hope?
I recently started following a Facebook group called “The Father’s Rights Movement,” which is an organization that purports to support equal rights for dads in the family courts. I have a great deal of empathy for fathers who want to see their children, but keep running into artificial roadblocks set up by people claiming to be acting… Continue reading 8 Things to Know Before You Leave Their Mother
A lot has happened since my last post. Here’s the short version: I met a girl. We fell in love. A few months later, I introduced her to my daughter and (step)son. The ex got upset. We spent the next two years dealing with the fallout from that. After getting remarried, circumstances dictated I seek redress from the… Continue reading A Dad’s Role in Protecting His Daughter
Had to drop the little girl off at daycare today after having her for a whole week. Everyone asked if we were going to do anything “fun.” But really, t’s a lot of the routine stuff that I miss: figuring out what we were going to eat from day to day, making sure she’s in… Continue reading Spring Break is Different This Time Around
It’s a familiar refrain for men. The ex got most of the stuff from the house. Thankfully, I have a bed already for myself and my daughter, a desk, and a lounging chair that will probably go into my daughter’s room for reading time, but my dryer is unusable (gas vs. electric) in an apartment,… Continue reading Rebuilding the Home
This blog is intended to serve primarily divorced fathers. I am not a counselor. I claim no expertise whatsoever except that I’ve sadly had to live through a lot of pain associated with divorce and being separated from my children. Whether your situation mirrors mine precisely or not, whether you’ve made mistakes in your past,… Continue reading Redeeming Hope