Over the course of the past few years, I’ve come to realize how deeply embedded bias is against what they call “non-custodial” parents in family courts. But the problem isn’t only in the courts. It just originates there. Prior to becoming a divorced dad, I wouldn’t have thought twice about what terms people use when… Continue reading You are not a visitor
I recently started following a Facebook group called “The Father’s Rights Movement,” which is an organization that purports to support equal rights for dads in the family courts. I have a great deal of empathy for fathers who want to see their children, but keep running into artificial roadblocks set up by people claiming to be acting… Continue reading 8 Things to Know Before You Leave Their Mother
A lot has happened since my last post. Here’s the short version: I met a girl. We fell in love. A few months later, I introduced her to my daughter and (step)son. The ex got upset. We spent the next two years dealing with the fallout from that. After getting remarried, circumstances dictated I seek redress from the… Continue reading A Dad’s Role in Protecting His Daughter
Last night, while I was going through all of my books and papers, I was confronted with several uncomfortable truths: I hoard way too many books that I’ll never read again The deed of organizing the apartment will not be finished by the time my daughter visits on Friday You can’t erase memories by throwing… Continue reading Sorting Through the Rubble
I know what the tagline says, but forget that for a second. This isn’t my story. It’s God’s. Everything I am or do that is good or useful is due to my relationship with Him — the relationship He drew me to, not by any merit on my part. My entire identity rests in who… Continue reading Whose Story Is It?
This blog is intended to serve primarily divorced fathers. I am not a counselor. I claim no expertise whatsoever except that I’ve sadly had to live through a lot of pain associated with divorce and being separated from my children. Whether your situation mirrors mine precisely or not, whether you’ve made mistakes in your past,… Continue reading Redeeming Hope